Updated: Jun 7
As a young man, this is what I’ve learned so far from people who are older than me:
1. If you are offered something beneficial, take the opportunity.
2. Communication of text alone is not always sufficient to understand the massage of the communication. There are other aspects as well that are missing from text, such as tone of voice, facial expression, posture, and so forth, that can better our understanding of the message presented to us.
3. Be grateful for what people do to you. Being polite can promote you. Be grateful for those who paid for you as a kid and raised you. You owe them one for the effort they’ve done.
4. In a group, aspire for the most equal cooperation. Don’t be a sucker, but don’t be an asshole either - make sure that everyone in the team has their hold of the missions that are required to be done.
5. It can be counter-productive to curse, making cursing something that can be an unwise thing to do.
6. Don’t yell at your elders or to people of authority. This, too, may be highly counter-productive, from decreasing your respect, to getting you fired or troubled with the law.
7. Aspire to do mostly, if not only, what’s good for you. The norms are not always correct about you as an individual.
8. You shouldn’t be guilty for having fun, when there’s nothing wrong specifically with the thing that brings you joy
9. Always get out with money available. You don’t know when you’re going to need it. Something unexpected can happen that would require you to pay.
10. Be nice but assertive when needed.
11. Your family isn’t your commander. As you reach adulthood your life becomes more and more free of authority by the family.
12. Don’t get kids at a very young age. You may be unprepared for this and it could also make the newborns pay for your unripe decision.
13. Being independent is important the more you grow up. You should grow your independence as long as you can, but not at the cost of being cruel to your family.
14. There’s no need to be in conflict with someone just because you share controversy with one another. You can disagree with each other and still be in good relations.
15. Make sure you plan ahead, but take the time you need to do it. Different people need different lengths of time, and it’s fine.
16. When you’re sitting in a bus and encountered with an elder that may have trouble standing up for long, stand up and allow them to sit, at least as a gesture of goodwill. You are more likely to stand up longer than they can.
17. Think well before you make a decision with big outcomes.
18. Make sure you don’t receive every information as true. Information can be false or present only half-truths.