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How Assertiveness Can Protect Empaths (By Mr. Mandoela Svartgold)

Updated: Feb 9

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When a person learns to be assertive, he knows how to protect himself from being hurt by others. That protection is evident by these very 4 reasons, and without them, being assertive against others wouldn't be as effective. By being assertive you can save yourself time and energy, which means that it is a worthy virtue in every practical, personal philosohpy:

The importance of Assertiveness:

1. If you are not following your desires and do something that you don't want to do, it is not self-expression. Assertiveness is about expressing yourself, saying no to others, and not canceling yourself by doing something you don't want to do. It is part of self-confidence and shows that you care about yourself. However, assertiveness is also learned behavior. If a child is not allowed to keep their boundaries and their boundaries are crossed, they learn to be silent and agree to things that hurt them. This can be very difficult to fix.

2. Mental health and assertiveness: There are people who live in this world without any positive childhood image of authority figures. They may not have received any encouragement or support from their parents, or their parents may have been critical, teasing, or taunting. This can have a negative impact on their mental and financial well-being. Assertiveness is important for these individuals because it can help them to set boundaries, express their needs, and stand up for themselves. Learning to be assertive can be difficult and tiring, but it is essential for their well-being.

3. Getting rid of toxic people: Toxic people often react immediately to save everyone who needs them, except themselves. They may also engage in arguments where they try to have the last word. This can lead to feelings of emptiness and a desire to avoid the world. The world may seem like a dangerous and unsafe place, whether mentally, physically, economically, or sexually.

Everyone has rooms inside their mind's castle, filled with memories. Some people have more difficult, unconscious memories that they need to fill with love. They may not have learned what self-love is or how to set boundaries. They may have spent many decades of their lives giving their time and feelings to others who were not worthy of them.

It takes time to understand and reach a state of awareness. It is important to be patient with yourself and to allow yourself to heal. There are many resources available to help you, such as therapy, support groups, and self-help books.

4. Understanding the true behavior of others and absorb their behavior: Some people go to work and healthcare settings and set boundaries with others so they don't get close to them. I see them separated by the masks they wear. People are hypocrites. They often know how to attract an empath. They know how to play their game of life, and that's what I see every day. They love to talk about their successes. I see how they talk and dress and compliment their boss or people of higher social class.

5. It helps empaths identify narcissists behind their masks and separate them from toxic people: Empaths have a desire to belong, so they can be easily drawn to narcissists. Narcissists know who is weak and sensitive, and they will use these people to their advantage. They need to feel superior to others, and they will do whatever it takes to get what they want.

6. Assertiveness can help people who are usually sensitive and need help. They love to help others, but it can be hard for them to set boundaries and say no. The answer is that they must sometimes separate themselves from others and not go after their need to rescue others. Sometimes, this boundary-denying behavior is a way for people to check their limits and just want time for themselves. Sometimes distance will help empaths. They must learn their value as an empath and stand up for themselves.

Sometimes, empaths lose their strength because they are drained by the energy vampires, also known as narcissists. These toxic people can sense empaths because they have been hurt in the past and are envious of the empaths' genuine smiles, love, happiness, and peace. They feel the need to compete with them, and in doing so, they take massive amounts of mental energy from the empaths.

Empaths are often quiet people who don't have anyone to talk to. They may feel the need to talk about sensitive topics like family, secrets, and difficulties, even to people they don't know well. They may not realize that these people are only asking questions to get information that they can use against them. They may think that if they are good people, everyone will treat them well.

Empaths and people-pleasers are often peacemakers and peace-loving people. However, other people may not recognize their value or hard work. As a result, they may be taken advantage of by narcissists and other toxic people. These people may betray their trust and lead them into misfortune and traps.

Empaths need to learn to set boundaries and say no to others, even if it is difficult. They need to protect themselves from people who are trying to drain them of their energy. They also need to find people who will appreciate them for who they are and treat them with respect.

* See research on assertiveness mental health and empaths:

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Tomasio A. Rubinshtein, Philosocom's Founder & Writer

I am a philosopher from Israel, author of several books in 2 languages, and Quora's Top Writer of the year 2018. I'm also a semi-hermit who has decided to dedicate his life to writing and sharing my articles across the globe. Several podcasts on me, as well as a radio interview, have been made since my career as a writer. More information about me can be found here.

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