Everything that you chose to be attached to, will either end with your demise or with its demise. Therefore, when attachment is chosen, and unless your own death prevents it -- you chose grief.
By choosing to adopt a pet, by choosing to marry, the same applies. You have chosen to love something, whose ultimate absence will cause you grief, unless you are to die yourself beforehand.
There is no eternity in the physical world, since nothing in it is invincible, nor immortal. Choose to be attached to something or someone in it, and you'll choose grief.
Therefore, attachment is not only the source of much suffering, but also of grief, even to things which make you feel happy, proud and purposeful.
Decrease your attachment from things and beings you don't need, and you will have less grief. Shower the world and everyone with innocent love, and you'll be deep in sorrow eventually, when you'll ultimately be left to your own devices.
Since I am aware of my sensitivity, I have only few attachments. Hence why I haven't been disappointed for so long. No one necessarily deserve you anything and vice versa. Even if I am to be remembered after my death, I still know that it will all be temporary, as all things are.
Meaning shouldn't be seen at such high regard, when it could ache the mind so very much.
By living, we chose death, because no living being is yet to surpass death. Therefore, even our own deaths might cause grief to those who were attached to us. It's why I don't want to think of trying to understand the "afterlife" empirically, because such attempt will bring much early sorrow. I will therefore wait until I'll die naturally, so I will only extend the inevitable pain that will follow.
Choose to bring life to this world, and you'll choose a period of grief that might happen to either you or others. Question is, are we strong enough to endure the inevitability, created by life? Attachment brings much pain, so I want little of it, as not all pain necessarily strengthen the body or mind. The gamble is not worth it for me.
Life is... pretty much, a gathering of gambling opportunities. Don't be surprised when the dice will play against your favour.
