Updated: Apr 20
There are two types of unavoidable events - those who are essentially inevitable, like death, hunger and thirst - and those who are unavoidable because of the choices, or the lack of choice, which are of our or of others’ doing or undoing.
Once you are born you are fated to death, but your death is not a product of fate, but of logic - since you are a mortal being, along with many other mortals, you are prone to the inevitability of death. The force we might interpret as a divine intervention, is but a result on the outcomes of logic and evidence.
The second type of unavoidable events, weren’t initially inevitable. My choice of monasticism has costed me an other-wise romantic teenage-hood. However, due to my own decision of celibacy during teenage-hood (and perhaps for all eternity), had lead me to experience a non-romantic teenage-hood. In other words, it was too late for me to experience romance, making the romantically-empty events of my teenage-hood, unavoidable.
This is an example for how one’s undoing can lead to one or more unavoidable events. When a chance is to be missed, whether intentionally or incompetently, some events are prone to be inevitable to be endured.
If you are, as a leader of a nation, negotiate discussions of peace with a hostile nation, and your negotiations were decently fruitful, you will make the events of peace unavoidable - thereby an example of how one can make one type of events inevitable, and a different type of events, evitable.
Much of our lives are under our control, but the different chronological spheres of different chances are not. While a woman can have control over her romantic relationships, she cannot alter the inevitability of becoming unfertile eventually. Likewise, it wasn’t a product of supernaturality, that made her fertility to be shorter in time, but a result of biology and of the logic that governs biological entities.
Thus, logic dictates that there are inevitable events that exist that way for merely existing, and inevitable events that exist in possibility due to our own choices, even if our choices were not made to serve as catalysts to them. Being successful, for example, has its own consequences as being a failure at something. In other words it is arguable that much of our choices, negative as positive, carry a burdening possibility of one or more unavoidable events to bother or even attempt to hurt us, our endeavors and/or our reputation. That is most especially true when it comes to these modern times on the virtual sphere of the External World, where your every action could easily be put to either shame or mockery, whether or not they actually understand the issue or person they intentionally redicule.
I believe that the most mature and realistic option in that case is to stand up for yourself and be willing enough to endure life's hardships and try to live as best as you can with your problems and with the logical inevitability of both your existence and the choices you make throughout the journey of life.