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Habit and Help -- A Philosophical Exploration of Altruistic Strength -- How Solitude Has An Altruistic Value

Updated: Oct 11


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Ms. Tamara Moskal's Synopsis

To become a socially successful adult means to be independent and self-sufficient. Grown-ups who depend on others and need help can become ashamed of being inadequate humans. Society discriminates against such people instead of supporting them.
Yet, helping others can help us, too. Giving somebody emotional or moral support can be a rewarding experience, and showing empathy in our corrupted world is crucial for a better future.
The best way to achieve relevancy is to make people in distress matter, give them hope, and fuel their ambition. True strength is providing strength to others when they need it for improvement. Helping one another strengthens societies and communities.
Therefore, seeking and providing help shouldn't be seen as a weakness but as a power.
Mr. Tomasio's pursuit of independence celebrates the human spirit and demonstrates that individuals with disabilities can lead fulfilling lives and assist others. He is grateful for the support he received, which helped him restore the physical strength needed to support people in need.
Solitude creates space for introspection, growth, and self-discovery, making us tougher and less egoistic. Isolation from a noisy society allows us to identify better our values, passions, and motivations. It boosts creativity, builds inner strength, and enhances focus and productivity.
Solitary discomfort and even asceticism are necessary for self-actualization. For the author, solitude helped him to develop a focus on aiding the depressed and unloved. Some aspects of comfort and joy must be sacrificed to reach more profound growth and create a lasting legacy for future generations.


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The Orthodox Point of Growth -- How It Hinders Itself


We begin life utterly reliant on others. However, as we mature, there is a powerful force bursting within many of us, which is the desire for greater self-sufficiency. Those who often fail to become more self-sufficient, might be bound to feel greater shame than those who do. That is because we connect independence with success. And those who are not as successful as society expects them to be, will have lesser confidence, and thus, will suffer more.


Some might even claim that society expects people, and especially young adults, to be "perfect". And what is a "perfect", "successful" individual if not the man or woman who does not rely on the welfare of others? Of the country? Of the family?


Thus, the point of growth in many people, towards greater independence, is shame. Specifically, shame of their original point. The original point of being humans who needed the help of others to grow into adults. And thus, the need of help can easily become a source of shame, even though we can never do things completely alone.


And as follows, we become ashamed. Ashamed of being humans. Of not being powerful like society expects us. It will condemn us for needing help. It will make us feel bad that we are not as ideal as we expect us to be. It will treat us with ableism if we're disabled, with sexism if we're men who can't provide for our family, and with racism if we're denied power associated with people of other ethnicities.


See, the odds are against many of us, and the odds have no desire to help us help them for the greater good. The lack of wanting to help others often ignores that helping others can help ourselves. Not only on the micro scale but also on the macro scale.


Imagine supporting people in exchange for long-term benefit to you. Help should be done even if through egotistical means. People can prosper, and can contribute to the world, far more when they are supported. Give someone emotional support, for instance, and observe how they blossom like flowers in a garden. Observe how kind-hearted people can help those in need, when they are shown kindness themselves. See how people have faith in others when they are previously shown faith themselves.




The point of growth towards greater success shouldn't be shame. No. It should stem from wanting to work towards the greater good of others, and by proxy, ourselves.


When have you heard someone you care for say that they believe in you? When did someone you care for, heard from you, that you believe in them? When was the last time you were shown empathy? When was the last time you gave empathy? In a world flooded by moral depravity and corruption, these are the ethical questions we deserve asking ourselves regularly for a better future, for a better existence.


People in distress are those who need to be believed in the most. Believe in them and aid them in their pain, and watch them grow and contribute to others thanks to the very strength you've lended to them. In my eyes, there is no greater way for relevance, than making people convinced that they matter, and that they can do so much good for others.


We can complain about society and lambast it as much as we want. True change for a better world comes within ourselves. Should we work on ourselves enough, we would be able to help others in their time of need, making them smile and understand what they're truly capable of. True strength comes not from oppression necessarily, but from the ability to provide it for others when they need it to achieve their hopes and dreams, as they work on becoming the best versions of themselves.


We need to be helped, therefore, not to escape from shame, but to reach a point where we would be able to help others, too. And our own help, from the strength we lend, can help them not only help ourselves but help others. And who knows? Maybe the very chain we started will be able to help us even further, thanks to our indirect help to the original people we helped?


Towards a Better Human Reality


Let us foster societies and communities that rely on helping one another not because we're weak, but because we're capable of far greater strength, together. Let us become points of light to enlighten those surrounded by darkness, and watch as pain is reduced and better endured. If helping others is a form of strength, of both giving and receiving strength in the long-term, why, then, treat help as a form of weakness?


We must look at the bigger picture if we want to make this world a less insufferable place to live in.


The ability to navigate life's path on our own two feet is a potent force. It equips us with the unwavering confidence to confront challenges and the inner resilience to rise from setbacks. However, the path to success is often built by the pavement of countless failures. Let go of people giving up, and watch as they deter their own progress towards greatness.


It is therefore very, very important to be able to witness and understand the potential of other people, for they often lack to see that extent of potential themselves. Long-term thinking can be done not only for one's own survival but for the greater good as well. Help people and help them fuel their engines, and watch as they reach into greater distances thanks to you. Become relevant by being the supplier of hope and ambition lone individuals might lack.


My pursuit of independence isn't a yearning for isolation, but a celebration of the human spirit's unyielding strength. I strive to be a beacon, demonstrating that individuals with disabilities can lead rich, fulfilling lives, and not only that, but be able to help others, too, in their time of need.


I regard the help I received throughout life with infinite gratitude, for without it, I wouldn't be able to lend my new-founded strength for others. I was physically handicapped for a year as a result of fatigue, and I had to do whatever I could to get out of it and not give up, because I knew what I was capable of. I knew people could use my help as well.


I wanted to restore my physical strength so I would have the energy to give people the additional value they deserve to distill hope and ambition into their lives. The only reason I am not a full hermit from society is because I understand I have much to give. I don't do this out of personal pleasure. I do this because I know this world is flawed, corrupt and unfair.


Just how, how can I give up on such an opportunity, to be of service to my fellow truth seekers, my fellow moral human beings, who also highlight decency as crucial?


No. I mustn't be alone too much. People are suffering, people are in distress, depressed. Heartbroken, lonely. They are aching behind masks of dishonest joy.


To be stronger, to help others, I did what I believe many of you need to do as well... Harness the power of solitude. I needed it and still need it to recharge. And with my newfound powers as a healthier man, given to me by the respite of peaceful, glorious solitude, I can give readers the content they deserve, and the depressed, the light they use to observe.


Farther, into the future. A better future. One where the self's weaknesses are not enabled by validation. But one where the self is strong enough to contribute regardless of it. One, where the self needs to be overcome for a better humanity, and a better love of life.


The Power of Solitude


The power of solitude lies enables the fostering of a unique space. A space that contradicts humanity's social nature. It creates for introspection, growth, and self-discovery. With these values, and with the functions it nurtures, the self can become tougher, stronger, and eventually, less egotistical. And the less energy we invest towards the ego, the more we have to invest for others. Taking care of the ego's craving for love, for companionship, and even for true friendship, is how we ruthlessness becomes a virtue.




And it's also how solitude becomes a societal asset, toward its greater improvement:


  1. Unveiling Your Inner World: Away from the constant hum of social interaction, solitude allows you to tune into your own thoughts and feelings. It's like quieting the external noise to hear your inner voice clearly. This introspection can help you identify your values, passions, and motivations. Knowledge is a most valuable asset, and one about yourself will enable you to know how you can help others the best you realistically can.


  2. Boosting Creativity:  Solitude provides a fertile ground for creativity to flourish. Free from distractions and external influences, your mind can wander, make unexpected connections, and generate new ideas. Artists, writers, and many other creative minds often utilize solitude to tap into their creative flow. With creativity you can actualize your vision into reality, and thus provide unique services and benefits to people in otherwise-unexpected ways.


  3. Building Inner Strength:  Facing challenges and overcoming obstacles on your own builds resilience and self-reliance. Solitude can provide the space to confront your fears, work through problems independently, and develop a sense of inner strength. With greater fortitude you can endure more reality. Enduring more will allow you to help the distressed when they are in their lowest. Pain is reduced by the ability to both endure it, and support its endurance in the hearts of those who face it.


  4. Enhancing Focus and Productivity: Without the constant social interaction and interruptions of daily life, solitude allows for focused work and deep concentration. This can be especially beneficial for tasks that require sustained attention and a high level of mental clarity. It's often lonely at the top because leaders often require to work in solitude, for the future of their vision. "As in my case, quiet contemplation can help a leader make sense of a lot of information. Sitting quietly and thinking through complex issues can often lead to breakthrough moments." -- CEO Jon Rennie of PeakDemand Inc.

While social connection is crucial for human well-being, solitude offers a powerful counterpoint that can bring greater benefit for humanity by proxy. It's a time to recharge, reconnect with yourself, and cultivate the inner resources needed to thrive in the world.


The world in which you want to see, by embodying your vision, in yourself and in your attitude.


The Price of Growth: Necessary Solitude


The path to greater independence may necessitate dedicating focused time for work and self-reflection each day. Though solitude and even asceticism might seem extreme, it's necessary on my journey to self-actualization, which for me means leaving a positive impact on the world, by being a competent philosopher.


Breaking the habit of relying on others and seeking constant validation can be challenging. It might leave you in a state of deep loneliness, and even despair. However, you see, hope can often emerge from despair, should you carry the vitality of enduring it for long, and for good.


For within the darkness of solitude one can better find the light within them. They can examine that light, and understand how that light can help not only them, but others as well. That was my journey in years of fatigue and depression.


They say solitude is bad... But solitude, through its pain, allowed me to focus on developing my own internal compass, which helped me aiding the depressed and the unloved. How, then, can one say that solitude is completely bad?


Instead, it's a trade-off. Some aspects of comfort, and even of joy, are to be sacrificed remorselessly, in the name of deeper growth and a lasting legacy. One that can be of use not only for those who are alive, but also later on, for those who have yet to be born.


The rewards are worth the agony.


Mr. Nathan Lasher's Feedback

We as humans learn to understand by doing. How will you ever know you're helping something if you’ve never helped anyone else? It requires a degree of learning through experience. Experiencing other’s having a particular emotion can teach us how to have it as well. Emotions are learned things.
A point should be that we learn from each other and we gain a feeling of what happiness is by creating it in other people’s lives. You want to feel something rather than make someone else feel it. Does this not also result in that emotion being created, even if not within ourselves? Emotion is contagious, so the best and fastest way to experience it is by making another person feel the emotion which you want to feel.
Easy fix for almost all of life's problems. Take action. What good does talking about a problem do? All that does is point out the obvious. Most likely the only thing which other people are doing is talking about it as well. Figure out a way to solve it and you have an entirely new business model for yourself.
Or, take it on an even more micro level and think about it like this: As you see problems, write them down and think up ways you could solve them. All problem solving is implementing solutions to things by taking action and trying to make it better. You want to see a problem fixed, don't be afraid to be the one who solves it.
Action is the most important thing in life. You want to make the news. All you have to do is do something big enough. You can talk about things all day long, content creation is a very powerful thing. What people must realize is that the only way your words become reality is if you choose to let them. 

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Tomasio A. Rubinshtein, Philosocom's Founder & Writer

I am a philosopher. I'm also a semi-hermit who has decided to dedicate my life to writing and sharing my articles across the globe to help others with their problems and combat shallowness. More information about me can be found here.

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