
The world is a meritocracy, a competition of limited resources and positions. People do not get what they deserve; they get what they fight for, to prove that they deserve it. When I went to the cafeteria during my days as a clerk and got a small chunk of meat, it was because I did not prove to the arrogant server that I deserved more.
Those who are more dysfunctional by default, i.e., those deemed less desirable by society, must prove their worth in the world, just like everyone else, if not more.
There is little justice in this world because what works in this world is appeal. Not everyone will give you a job just because you need food to eat and bills to pay; not every person will agree to be your partner just because you love them and just because you have needs and desires as a romantic and sexual being.
Most people do not owe anything to you, including your own parents. Even if the love of a parent is necessary for you to grow healthily, the parent has no obligation to love you, or even be there for you. That's why there are parents who are very bad in their roles, and still, there is nothing in theory that can stop them from being as such.
There should be a big difference between needing something and between deserving it. By needing, you simply require it, but by deserving, you are entitled to it. The cruel freedom of the world says that most people don't owe anything to you, because they are not entitled to give you anything. That's the freedom of action, of reaction.
You will not see me go and say that this philosophy blog deserves views, because no one is truly entitled to read it, even though it needs views in order to remain relevant. The seemingly eternal thing that binds needing and the convincing of deserving, is redemption; It is proving to people you depend upon, that they should help you, and if they think you deserve their help, then all the better.
I once read a comment, a very long time ago, that said that rappers like Eminem deserve their worldly fame due to the harsh reality they went through. That isn't true, because there is no such thing as divine justice; justice that every single being is entitled to.
As long as you are in some market of society, in some place that requires competition, then you must preserve your worth in the eyes of those whom you need, but not necessarily vice versa. As a philosopher, I must prove to you that I am relevant enough to be worthy of your time, because if I won't, you might just as well do something else with your time.
The relations between a proprietor and their enterprise are intertwined, and the crowd out there for the things you provide are limited. Therefore, you MUST prove that you are worthy enough, and that has nothing to do with whether or not you deserve said worth.
Today I found out that an answer of mine on Quora has been shared to a community dedicated to narcissists. I do not view myself as a narcissist nor I intend to become one. However, if people think I'm a narcissist, then I've done something wrong that repulsed them, and whether or not I did that intentionally, it doesn't matter.
The resource that is the mind of the reader/consumer, is ultimately something plenty of other entities fight for, for it to dedicate itself for them, even for a little while. If I "committed" dysfunctionality, then I must redeem it, if I want to increase the potential in that small department of the world.
Regardless of where you start, AKA, regardless of the hand you've been dealt, you must prove yourself to the world if you wish to stay relevant and/or desired. Some may assist you because they believe in your cause, but in the end, it's something you do mainly on your own if you represent yourself through your assets.
Not everyone starts at the same point, but that doesn't mean one should cry and complain about starting at a lower point in life's great competitions.
One of the purposes of this site is to stay relevant enough that it could endure the end of humanity itself. You might see it as pretentious or pompous, but I want to do so simply because I want to contribute as much as I can, even after my own death.
Of course, I cannot control your thoughts, but that does not mean I cannot influence them by trying to convince you otherwise. Obviously, I do not know if this site will last that long, but as long as I can produce relevant content, then I still have a chance of succeeding in that regard.
What do I want? I want to make philosophy relevant enough that people from all over the world will read my site's content on a regular basis. That way, I will truly know that I have produced relevant and useful material.
I will not say to you that this site deserves such a thing, because that thing isn't to be deserved but earned through hard work. As long as there is a significant possibility that this legacy will be shut down before the end of time, then my work in this world is not done yet.
Many are born dysfunctional in one way or another. The world is not necessarily going to like that within us. It may alienate us, reject us, and portray us in a way that is a product of its own misunderstanding.
In the end, we all must prove that our existence is worthy enough of anyone's time, no matter how easy or hard it may be. Only then can our potential for the world be unleashed to its optimal effect.