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Trust and Luck

Updated: Apr 23

There is, I believe, a very fine correlation between a worthy object of trust and luck. By being born somewhere, in a specific family, in a specific society, and with different skills, some people are bound to you for some time, until you gain the increasing option to navigate between more and more potential connections.

When you're merely a child, you're at the hands of people you are confined to, and later, to an educational institution filled with people you must meet every day; Then, when you have to work, your acknowledgement of people increases even further, until you reach a certain peak, somewhere in your life, depending on your very own decisions.

What I'm trying to say is, that there are different people that you will meet in life. Some are worthy of trust, some are not. Some of these people are confined to you for a specific period of time, and once you grow more independent, you might be introduced to more and more people, whose reliability is all a matter of luck, basically.

I'm a loner by nature, and because of that, my "pool" of people is small. However, those who I managed to find and connect with throughout my life were people who I can say were worthy of my trust and are even now. The internet, so to speak, is the "ultimate" medium of potential where you can meet a very wide variety of people, all with different degrees of recommended trust.

It really is luck-based because being introduced to different people is a largely random thing, whether they connect with you or not is another matter. Of course, as we become adults, we gain the choice to decide which people we want and which we don't, but the selection itself, the pool of opportunity, is based on luck.

Since our lives pretty much rely on people, from our parents to the people we will be interacting with throughout our lives, these interactions will eventually influence the course our lives will take. The reason why I, for example, live in a distant region of my country is because I had trouble with my former neighbors.

If these neighbors decided to live elsewhere, a.k.a. if I had less noisy neighbors, I would probably resume living in the same building I lived in for most of my life. It is that easy to see how the presence of different people can alter your course of life and how, based on your interactions with them, that course would take place.

Another example, if you will. I have never been in a relationship. The main reason for that is because I decided to stop looking and stay single based on past experiences with certain women.

Perhaps if I encountered a different set of women, my love life would've been different, and I wouldn't choose to pursue a more monastic route in life. Encountering different people is pretty much a "game" of dice. Different people are dealt different "sets" of "cards.

All of this demonstrates how unpredictable life can be based on the words you choose to say and the people whose presence you refuse. If you said different things and chose different people throughout the course of your past, perhaps your life in the present would've been very different. The same goes with this very site.

A certain reader chose to volunteer as an advisor, and if I hadn't trusted them, then the composition of the site would've been different. If I hadn't accepted help in general, this site would've looked different as well, for the better and for the worse.

If you wish to improve your life, therefore, you need to work on your ability to distinguish between those who are worthy of trust and those who are not. Some people are manipulators with hidden motives; some would stab you in the back.

It's hard to know for certain unless you work on your ability to "read" people and notice indications of possible scammers and other con artists. Should you fall for their deception, then that would change your course of life as well.

Thus, this "luck" I'm speaking of when it comes to people also relies on your ability to consent or deny when such decisions can be made. If you are a baby, you can't choose your parents or guardians, but when you become an adult, you can choose to discard them, regardless of whether or not it's a wise idea.

I am fortunate to have a family member who can detect scams better than me. Thanks to him, I managed to grow more skeptical of possible offers, such as those presented in my spam, or when strangers approach me. Perhaps if I didn't have him, my life would've been different as well.

Do you see now, how one's fortune is as fluid as water? It can change anytime, anywhere, and it depends on two factors: luck and wisdom. Luck, because we are dealt with different "pools" of people. Wisdom is our ability to differentiate, accept, and decline.

We cannot always control the first, but we sure can improve the second as time goes on. We should be suspicious of people when suspicion has its place, and we should be trustful of people when we are rightfully certain that they can bring us benefit, and vice versa.

On that note, I would like to thank you all for trusting me, if you do. The internet can be a malicious place. Thank you for not regarding me as a scammer, because you can rest assured when I declare that I am full of goodwill. Thanks again for choosing to spend your time on my writing. Allow me to humor you as long as you like.

And remember this: Anyone can just disappear from your life, intentionally or not. Other people aren't necessarily resources, but they can definitely be of help. Choose wisely from your "pool" of people, and they can be of great help to your ambitions and intentions.

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Tomasio A. Rubinshtein, Philosocom's Founder & Writer

I am a philosopher from Israel, author of several books in 2 languages, and Quora's Top Writer of the year 2018. I'm also a semi-hermit who has decided to dedicate his life to writing and sharing my articles across the globe. Several podcasts on me, as well as a radio interview, have been made since my career as a writer. More information about me can be found here.

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