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On Being Disposed Of

Being disposed of is one of the hardest things anyone can experience in their lives, whether it's at work, by a love interest, by family, or even by a group of friends. It does not matter if you're rich, poor, fortunate, or unfortunate. Rejection is something that everyone can face at least once or even twice in their lives, and depending on the attachment you had with the disposer, life can get tougher than it might already be for you.

Even "giants" such as Mark Zuckerberg may face rejection from the world when presenting themselves and their ideas to the world. As of writing this article, Zuckerberg has recently announced that the major social media platforms he owns, will be under the umbrella of a bigger entity, called "Meta".

The idea, although ambitious, has been met with much mockery, not only because of how the logo looked, but also because the word "Meta" in Hebrew means "She died". Yes, Meta means "she died" in Hebrew.

Anyways, although Zuckerberg is too powerful to simply be disposed of easily, his external respect has long been disposed of by many people, who often use him as an example when talking about "non-human" people, who have no touch with actual "humanity".

Rejection/disposability is something that can happen to anyone. It doesn't matter who you are, or who you think you are, but as long as the other side believes you are unnecessary, they might be inclined to dispose of you from their lives. No one actually has the privilege of having either themselves or their reputation be non-disposable.

And the thing is, it's very human, because pets who are loyal to you enough, will stay by your side until either one of you dies. That pet doesn't even have to be a dog, it could be a cat. My own cat uses one of my windows to get inside after his outside adventures, and he is aware that it's his home and that I'm his owner and friend. I'm sure that, since I raised him, he won't abandon me like different people in my life have done.

Relationships with other people are like a big interview, where you constantly have to prove to them, and vice versa, that you should not be disposed of and that you are still valuable to either them or the world in general. The world isn't like a video game where you can keep everyone you meet alongside you (although some video games won't allow or ensure that).

If you've been blessed with loving parents, they are the most likely people who will not dispose of you, because, unlike other people, they love you the most. I love you more than anyone else on the planet. During my grandma's funeral, after she was buried, I was told that she loved me the most in her life, much to my surprise.

People who aren't loving family and friends are the likeliest to dispose of you from their world, should they reach the conclusion that you are unnecessary. It's a cruel thing to do, even at work, but the truth is, not all of the people in one's life are seen by them as important enough to resume keeping.

You can preserve loyalty like a dictator does. Constantly reward them with gifts and money, and even marry them to your children. But when you no longer have stuff to offer them, they might abandon you, if not betray you. That's especially true if you happen to be in a position of higher authority. Humans are political animals, some at least, and to be political is to be defined by interests. Hidden or otherwise.

Some people do not care if they are disposed of. They are strong enough to move on to the next "phase" of people. However, when you value yourself far enough, you will feel hurt when someone you appreciate disposes of you, because being disposed of is a sign of no importance, and wastefulness.

Why would someone like being unimportant; a waste; an irrelevancy; or dysfunctional? That message, that reminder, isn't something that everyone can necessarily endure, once it has been done multiple times, especially if it's in a field that is important to the disposed person.

As I said before, I don't like to dispose of people. I was taught in life that since anyone with enough respect for me can help me as I can help them, there is no necessity in disposing of them. Even recently, I received a positive review of my site, from someone I haven't seen physically in almost 4 years. Being good to others pays. Not necessarily by cash.

See how good it is to keep people in your life, even if they might not be as close as others? Anyone could be useful once they are on "your side", and thus I don't see any reason to dispose of people who are good to me and vice versa. Anyone can return the benefit sometime in the future. (It doesn't mean that others should "walk over you" per se, just for said benefit. We deserve standards).

How can you know whether someone is evil in a piece of fiction? See if they dispose of people who help them, from friends to faceless henchmen, from abandoning them to actually abusing or killing them. Then, you will know that they are indeed villains. Why? Because heroes do not betray the favor of those who are on their side.

This is why I am very inclined to show her, the one I made my nemesis, that I am relevant. I don't think she's evil, but I do think that she does not estimate the importance of having many connections. Still, it isn't my position to tell her to accept me back, because that isn't on my agenda anymore. My agenda is to show the world that she was wrong about calling me irrelevant.

You don't have to like everyone and everything, but calling someone "irrelevant"? For the likes of that, I had enough of forgiving; of having the "dignity" to ignore. It is the point that broke me, after years of insults from different people.

Imagine loving someone for around 8 years, only for them to call me "irrelevant" at the end of said period. How would you feel, wasting so much time on such a careless individual? That's when I knew, that I am a truly disposable individual for some; the one in the movies that is killed and left forgotten and nameless; that one worker who has to be fired due to downsizing the office; the one who could have had more screen-time, but remained wasted potential indefinitely.

I will make it my strength, to prove that even though she doesn't have to accept my company, she should not have had to call me 'irrelevant'. I will use it to become even worthier than I might already be, to the world!

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Tomasio A. Rubinshtein, Philosocom's Founder & Writer

I am a philosopher from Israel, author of several books in 2 languages, and Quora's Top Writer of the year 2018. I'm also a semi-hermit who has decided to dedicate his life to writing and sharing my articles across the globe. Several podcasts on me, as well as a radio interview, have been made since my career as a writer. More information about me can be found here.

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