Why People Deny Reality -- Dive in into Human Weakness and Weakness Directory
- Mr. Tomasio Rubinshtein
- Oct 12
- 6 min read
The Directory:
People often deny things that are too hard for them to bear. Many, instead of hearing the uncomfortable, unpleasant truth, would choose to deny it in the name of comfort. The reason for that being, that comfort feels good, and does not require the mental strength to bear it, unlike uncomfortable truths, that require strength to endure them.
To choose pleasantry over reality is a sign of weakness. Many people prefer to pay the cost of denial, and shield themselves from the bigger reality, than to let the truth liberate them.
Most people are weak. Most people don't have the strength to venture out beyond the comfortable and embrace the uncomfortable truth that is essential to understanding reality. So, instead of speaking about it, they would prefer to hold it somewhere in the back of their minds, and never let it out.
And to quote Plato, there is no more hated man than he who speaks the truth. As a philosopher, I devote myself to the truth, and find myself largely alone as a result. The truth has the power to rectify the world, set people free from denial mechanisms, but the truth is not profitable; the truth is not something people would necessarily like to hear. And the media knows this, and to make money in this world, you have to cater. Catering requires making things pleasant for people. Since the truth is often unpleasant, the truth is often ignored and overlooked.
Being a philosopher makes me an unflinching man. I can say honest things that most people wouldn't be able to bear. Difficult truths require endurance, and thus the path of the philosopher is solitary and a social risk.
Saying the brutal, uncomfortable truth has the risk for you to live a life of solitude. The problem with that is that many people don't have the strength within them not only to bear uncomfortable truths, but also the solitude of their own company. And as such, dedicating oneself to the uncomfortable, unpleasant truths of the world, require one to bear 2 things: Unpleasantry and loneliness. And as such, the path of the truth is a road often not taken, in a world where masks and other denial mechanisms reign triumphant.
Society is anti-truth. Society does not encourage the virtue of unflinching honesty, but rather the vice of a comfortable life and the services necessary for such a life. Because society is anti-truth by nature, being affiliated with it is counter-intuitive to the solitary path of the philosopher.
To be able to freely express yourself requires strength most people do not have. It is a special, hidden strength that society does not encourage you to develop. It is the strength necessary to foster a world of love and freedom, but as long as we will deny the expression or listening to uncomfortable truths, we would also, by proxy, deny ourselves this hidden strength.
Deep relationships are built on the ability to bear uncomfortable truths. Denying the truths will not make one's company truly deep. Depth is a vital trait in relationships, imperative to create meaning, closure and the elimination of loneliness. However, since most people don't have that hidden strength, they would spend their lives chasing the superficial.
When you want to get to know someone, you have to be honest with yourself -- how deep are you going to go with that desire? If you want to know someone for the sake of pleasantry, you will know that person in a very shallow way, and thus, in a very ingenuine way. If you dare know that person deeply, you will have to endure his or her uncomfortable truths.
And since most people want to feel pleasant, over hearing uncomfortable truths, their relationships will remain shallow, and be based only upon pleasantry, not upon the mental freedom of knowing the truth.
And how should such weakness in front of that truth should be dealt with? Should it be dealt with compassion or with ruthlessness? The choice is entirely up to the individual. Those who weren't strong enough to deal with the brutal truth, I have dealt with using ruthlessness. I just can't bear the ingenuine human weakness that is hypocritical -- you want to know a person, but not really, if knowing a person would make you feel unpleasant. Why, then, would you want to know a person, if you have not the courage to endure their inner truth? And indeed, most social interactions are ingenuine like that; nothing more than a theatre of fakeness and vain hedonism.
To serve the good feeling, above the truth, is a sign of weakness, because it means you are not brave enough to embrace the truth that exists irrespective of pleasantry. Then, comes the question, if it is really worth it to be in the company of those who are not strong enough to bear the truth.
Bearing the truth is the key to a truly honest company that liberates one from his or her loneliness. It is something that most people are not strong enough to do, hence the reasoning of the loneliness epidemic -- a phenomenon where the current company people have in their lives are not sufficient to liberate them from said loneliness.
Unflinching honesty is this metaphorical, giant knife that sets one from their feelings of loneliness, however it is one most people are not strong enough to wield.
And thus, when people deny things you did, however great, they might do it because they don't have the strength within them to endure these parts within yourself, and would prefer you to conceal them in the name of pleasantry.
And as such the relations between truth and strength should be clear. Strength is not only expressed by physical fortitude but also by the ability to bear the truth fearlessly, or despite fear. Since most don't have that aspect of strength, many relationships are fake, and thus unfulfilling, and thus lead to loneliness.
If we truly want to solve the loneliness epidemic that runs rampant in our world, we need not merely to communicate with each other, but communicate with unflinching honesty.
And to get that unflinching honesty, requires work on oneself that most people don't do. And thus, they spend their lives in weakness, and in denial of harsh truths that would otherwise grant them the mental freedom to see reality in a wider way.
Because people deny reality, their perception remains thin and shallow. Their creativity disappears, and different opportunities they have within their potential are simply not an option because they become blind to it. The more you deny reality, the more this process of denial becomes unconscious, and then you become naturally blind to reality as a self-defense mechanism.
The stronger you get from within, the more this perception widens, and you begin to see reality in a wider, clearer way.
However, for as long as people would choose denial as a habit, their perception will remain limited, and they will live in defeatism, oppressed to forces stronger than them, and complied to obey in utter subjugation.
The true, honest philosopher overcomes the temptation for a life of comfort, because the truth is often uncomfortable, and thus, the philosopher would mostly remain alone or with a very small company of people.
Had people had the strength within them to overcome their denial mechanisms, relationships would be deeper, loneliness would be reduced, and thus the negative impacts that accompany loneliness would not arrive. As such, the strength within is the key to overcoming the negative impacts of hardships such as loneliness, and to foster that inner strength, requires discipline and awareness, and sometimes time, most people do not have.
And thus, most people can easily spend their lives in misery, being enslaved to stronger forces in utter defeatism, not willing to break the matrix that limits their perception on reality, and would instead retreat to comforts as a way to cope with their miserable lives.
If you want to be truly free, physical freedom alone won't cut it. You would also require the mental freedom necessary to liberate yourself from limited perceptions, that often come through the denial of reality and uncomfortable truths.
And as such, true freedom, one that is both physical and mental requires strength most people do not have. Even if they would be able to travel, parts of reality will forever remain hidden from them, whether consciously, AKA, by choice, or unconsciously.
And to be able to endure a life of solitude is something most people do not have the strength to do, yet the truth is often a path walked alone. For honesty creates distance with those not ready for it, and comfort is the social soap that keeps people together, at the price of dishonesty and fakeness and compromise.
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