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What Should You Do With Your Life (I Think)

Updated: Feb 21

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In Rubinshteinic philosophy, it is believed that your life is your own property, unless it is officially otherwise. Therefore, as long as you are not subject by law to anyone or anything else, such as school, prison, military service, or other forms of debt, then you are free to do with your life as you please. After all, your life is your own property most of the time, especially if you are an independent adult.

Other bodies, like parents, friends, and society, may pressure you to do things they think are good for you, or good for them, but in the end, if you truly wish to be the master of your own life and treat it as your sole property, then bear in mind the power of refusing the pressures of those whose power does not belong in your own decision-making authority over your life!

Norms, external expectations, and hope from family and tradition are all things that try to influence us in one way or another, regardless of what society or culture we are from.

Others expect you to serve in the military as a sign of your masculinity or to have any other masculine test to prove your "manliness" if you are a male, or to "marry quickly" if you are a female.

All of these factors and entities butt into your life under the pretense that they know better than you what is best for you, and sometimes they are correct with this premise; However, the final decision, as someone whose life is their property, should always be in your hands, as long as said life is indeed your sole ownership.

As a result of that philosophy of life, some people may not like it, including those who are dear to you. Some may at the very least disapprove of your actions, while others may be disappointed in you for not adhering to their own imposed guidelines.However, only those who support you, I believe, are best to be in your company, while the disapproving rest should be discarded, especially those who may make you feel ashamed of yourself, for following your own path in life.

The consequences, therefore, will not be equal for anyone who chooses to see life as their sole property. Even if you are married and have children, in the end your life is still yours to decide and lead, regardless of the wisdom -- or stupidity -- of your actions.

You may end up rich or poor; you may end up following your true passions, or, instead, find yourself in a job you despise just to pay the bills. To choose to lead life in an independent manner, is to rely mostly, if not only, on your own wisdom in the choices you make.

That is the price tagged on "true" adulthood: to reap the rewards of your success, and endure the consequences of any of your actions in the hope that you will learn from them to improve.

Ultimately, as the "captain" of the "ship" that is your life, do not expect mercy if you fail, because that failure is in your hands. People may come and go, but the ultimate price is yours to either pay or reap, depending on your choices and their chance of success.

In short, as long as you're an adult, you should lead your life in any way you like, as long as you possess the "pair", so to speak, to be grateful for what you have, and endure the toll of the results of your actions. Wisdom is very, very important if you choose to follow the mindset this article suggests before your consideration, because in the end, your property is yours to design, lead, and manage.

I made many changes to my life after realizing, a long time ago, that my life is mine to lead. I unofficially changed my first name to better suit my liking; I became more withdrawn from society and from socializing; I dedicated my life to philosophizing at the cost of many normative pursuits; and in the end, thanks to the very realization I have presented in this article, I, at least, became a much happier, more grateful, and more proud individual.

I was also fortunate enough to have more liberal circles that approved my life choices, and interfered less and less, as time went by. I may live alone in a small apartment on welfare, but regardless of the sacrifices I've made, I wouldn't trade the world for my happiness and the contribution I believe I make to the world by living more solitarily and ascetically.

It is all because I realized that my life belongs to me, and only to me. Thus, despite criticism, praise, and condemnation, I am allowed, in a free country, to do as I please. External views are, ultimately, nothing but footnotes to me.

If you wish greater freedom as an adult, please consider following the example presented by my philosophy, but take note that you, like me, will have to make some sacrifices, for that sense of happiness and self-actualization to ultimately arrive.

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Tomasio A. Rubinshtein, Philosocom's Founder & Writer

I am a philosopher from Israel, author of several books in 2 languages, and Quora's Top Writer of the year 2018. I'm also a semi-hermit who has decided to dedicate his life to writing and sharing my articles across the globe. Several podcasts on me, as well as a radio interview, have been made since my career as a writer. More information about me can be found here.

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