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Advices of Serenity -- How To Reduce Unnecessary Suffering Within You and Others

Updated: May 5

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Cultivating Inner Peace Through Minimized Suffering

My technique for finding inner peace is quite isolationist in nature. I strive to avoid any form of unnecessary pain, and learn from the lessons of suffering I've already encountered to better equip myself for the future. This way, I only experience pain when it's inevitable, becoming wiser in the process. Unnecessary suffering can be defined as one which can be avoided when working for one' hopes and dreams.

Perhaps they very key that causes us to suffer is frustration. And frustration may occur when there are resistences to our desires. Should we keep our desires in check, therefore, we can reduce unnecessary suffering within us.

By the same token, I actively optimize anything that is both healthy and reduces my stress levels, even if it means defying peer pressure and other societal stresses. I carve my own path in life, seeking the path of least suffering and greatest calmness. And yet, I, at least, accept suffering and exhaustion as part of being a philosopher. If I ever find myself in an activity that causes stress that serves no functionality, I take a break or withdraw completely if it's not essential for my plans.

Perhaps you could do the same by learning from me?

Unlocking Serenity: Practical Steps & Shifting Perspectives

My approach to finding inner peace emphasizes both practical tools and shifting perspectives.

Practical Steps:

Shifting Perspectives:

  • Rationalize Your Stress: Analyze the root of your stress. You can better do so by realizing that understanding is an active and often complex process. Often, rationalizing the source can help reduce its power and release the unnecessary burden it places on your mind. Remember, not all worries are worth dwelling on and expending our precious energy on.

  • Question Whatever is Seen As Necessary: Be open to challenging societal norms and expectations, even if you'll be met with criticism. Romantic love, family and other popular notions, while important to some, aren't universally essential for happiness and fulfillment. That is, of course, assuming that you are interested in these values. But you can apply this to any other value you want to attain (even less-than-popular values, like something I'd like to call "relentless altruism", which minimizes happiness).

  • Live Per Your Authenticity: Embrace alternatives that align with your values and promote your own well-being. By living authentically, you can inspire others to re-evaluate their own priorities and potentially find their own unique path to serenity. You might find that you more resonate with your life, rather than hate said life, once you're capable and willing of doing the things you want, and not others want for you. As such, many employees have a mercenary's mindset because they hate their jobs. And jobs, for many, are a necessary part of adult life.

Remember: Things and experiences considered crucial by some, and even sources of stress, can often be overcome or reframed to further resonate with you individually.

According to Head to Health:

"Spending time on an activity that you enjoy can improve your mental health and wellbeing. In fact, people with hobbies may be less likely to experience stress, low mood, and depression".  

By living authentically and embodying your own ways for peace, you can inspire others to reflect on their own lives and potentially discover their own path to serenity. As such, the quest for serenity can extend from an individual pursuit to a more-collective benefit. Never underestimate the power of leading by example.

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Tomasio A. Rubinshtein, Philosocom's Founder & Writer

I am a philosopher from Israel, author of several books in 2 languages, and Quora's Top Writer of the year 2018. I'm also a semi-hermit who has decided to dedicate his life to writing and sharing my articles across the globe. Several podcasts on me, as well as a radio interview, have been made since my career as a writer. More information about me can be found here.

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