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The Legend of Tomasio De Castillo

Updated: Mar 7

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Is it better to be alive in the far past or the contemporary era?

One could argue that "too much solitude" is not as bad today as it was in the far past, when one's life and survival depended on social, romantic, and sexual competence.

Let me tell you a story as an example of why I think the present is far better to live in than, for instance, the Victorian era, or any other era where marriage was compulsory for many.

I played an entertaining browser game whose name I have forgotten, because I closed the window before getting a chance to remember it.

The game is basically a decision-making game set in a fantasy, Victorian-like universe, where you, as a noble, are given the chance to attend a long season at your queen's court, where scripted romantic opportunities can be made, depending on your choices.

I decided to do a "celibate run" of the game - refuse any romantic opportunity whatsoever, even if it is highly likely. I, Tomasio De Castillo (you can't write your own surname, unfortunately, but you can choose from a small selection of surnames), was eventually faced with three potential spouses.

There were three women who were interested in me, the protagonist.

One was a wealthy merchant, but she was not very attractive. The second was a young and attractive woman, but she was naïve and had no significant fortune. The third was the Queen herself, who was married but willing to abandon her husband for me.

The peak of the plot came during the Grand Ball, where the men carried a rose in their pocket and gave it to the woman of their liking. In this game, you can also be gay, so the men could also give the rose to the man of their liking.

This was also where you were given, most likely, the final decision of who would be your spouse out of the three ladies.

Dedicated to the intentions of my run of the game, I refused to give the rose to any of the ladies, even though the narrator went the extra mile to ask me if I was sure.

Contrary to what I thought, it is impossible to remain celibate in that game. If you fail to marry anyone during your stay at the Queen's Court, intentionally or unintentionally, your father will inevitably demand that you marry a woman who is as old as your grandmother, smells like a goat, is ugly, and comes from a not very significant family. Her heritage will be passed down to her grown children instead of you when she dies.

Thus, the poor Tomasio De Castillo, who was convinced that he would triumph over the fate of marriage, was forced by his father to marry and was unable to do anything about it. Curse the narrator for not allowing me to do the voluntary celibate run I wanted!

One can learn from this that being solitary nowadays is probably much better than being solitary in other, more ancient time periods. This is because modern loners have a lot more freedom than loners before the times of modernity.

So, as long as you will not be forced to marry to someone you don’t like out of your family’s desperation, let alone to do intercourse with them - you can be rest assured that you shouldn’t worry about whether you’re too much solitary or not. Enjoy your freedom while it lasts, and endure the consequences of your actions. Some communities might still have forced marriages, but at least most of the world has abandoned this practice, for people should not be married against their will, male or female.

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Tomasio A. Rubinshtein, Philosocom's Founder & Writer

I am a philosopher from Israel, author of several books in 2 languages, and Quora's Top Writer of the year 2018. I'm also a semi-hermit who has decided to dedicate his life to writing and sharing my articles across the globe. Several podcasts on me, as well as a radio interview, have been made since my career as a writer. More information about me can be found here.

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