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Article Synopsis by Mr. J. Igwe and Co. "Universal Lonerhood: Why We're All Loners and How to Thrive" is an article that explores the concept of loneliness as an inherent part of the human experience . It argues that we are all alone due to our distinct individualities, and that true understanding between people is rare, making loneliness inevitable to some extent. The article presents intriguing ideas about the nature of loneliness, particularly the notion that even in close relationships, a lack of understanding can create an insurmountable barrier. Mr. Tomasio uses analogies and metaphors to illustrate the inherent separateness of individuals, making the article more engaging. The piece balances philosophical musings with practical insights, suggesting that individuals can grow stronger by accepting their solitude and improving their self-understanding . It also addresses modern issues, such as the impact of social media on relationships, making it relevant to contemporary readers. Overall, "Universal Lonerhood: Why We're All Loners and How to Thrive" is a thought-provoking piece that contributes to the ongoing conversation about human connection and isolation.    (Background music) Objectively, all things share one universe. Subjectively, each thing has its own universe. -- Dan Echegoyen We are all loners because we are all alone to an extent. Allow me to explain. Loners are beings who are continuously alone, distinct from togetherness. When you are alone, you are separated from other beings. Universal Lonerhood, like togetherness, exists on a spectrum. You might realize it when, for example, you are with someone who fails to understand you. Then, you are both with them, but the lack of clear understanding creates this "barrier" between you and them. When it occurs continuously, it creates this uncanny state of being where you are never understood properly, and thus, your inner being is never seen entirely, beyond the appearance of you and your behavior. Understanding is essentially a form of abstract vision, where the information you receive from others is converted into knowledge. It is often a lengthy process that may or may not be hindered by denial, hasty conclusions and judgmentally-dismissive attitude. The intelligent as such are lonelier due to the fact that it takes more effort to understand them . You may claim that spending time with someone is how you don't make them lonely, but that's simply not true. It is not enough because to reduce their loneliness you must understand them more , so their inner being, the one beyond your impressions and assumptions of them, becomes visible enough to avoid deluding yourself about them. Simpler people are easier to understand and thus it does not take much effort to relieve them of their loneliness. Thus, at least by this reasoning, simpler people are the least likely to be lonely. Within our inner loneliness, we might eventually realize that those who are dear to us are not really interested in learning us properly so we won't be as lonely. They may have the following problems in their thinking: They may claim that they've known us for most of our lives (or all of it). Therefore, they're preventing themselves from the underrated value of self-doubt , necessary for further learning. They don't necessarily have any interest in learning about us in general. They might be too tired, too busy and so on. Their hearts are not necessarily open enough to contain us entirely . "Heart", or emotion, is not only an ability, but also a capacity. As such we can't expect much from the heartless when it comes to greater understanding of our deeper parts. Out of their on inner void and/ or intimidation , suppressed or otherwise, they may call us narcissists, people who are too full of themselves, etc. Their inner voids may prevent them to be altruistic towards us , thus indicating their own lack of a strong, inner core. It is usually such people who feel the need to be validated the most. It is also hard for such people to understand us and be there for us when they are too vulnerable to do so. We can learn from this that it isn't even realistic to be expected to be well understood by some people. This presents us the opportunity to grow strong alone instead of depending on them. As such this shall allow us to further practice the art of being alone, and learn how to live and prosper despite the harsh, cold loneliness within us. Either way, we are always separated from each other. Even if we were put in a very small room, we would still be each on our own, because our individuality logically makes us separated from each other. The fact that my consciousness is not your consciousness leads to the conclusion that we are alone, i.e., separated, from each other. Even people who happen to share the same body , but have different heads, are still their own individuals by this principle of separate consciousness. That includes different personalities and interests. However, a very rare case of conjoined twins, who have thalamic bridge , allows them to indeed share the same mind. It's believed they can "mentally travel" to each other's minds and share the same experiences as if they are in their own special mental world. Such a phenomena might be the only case which would ultimately relieve us of our loneliness. Perhaps, at the cost of our mental privacy, which might be the final frontier of our privacy in general , but I digress. Take this analogy to further understand the individuality of existence: The desert does not exist. It is only a collective imagery of grains of sand, which are separated from each other. The fact that they are separated from each other proves that they are alone even if they are to be categorized as a "desert." The same applies to human collectives. Even if we constantly interact and socialize with each other, we still remain detached from one another in some way. And the only realistic way to bridge this existential detachment is by a clearer understanding of others. But if they are to fail to understand that understanding is a complex, lengthy process that could even be trained and improved , we will likely remain detached. We will remain detached, but at the very least we can improve our understanding of ourselves , so we won't be as lonely as beings who are not understood by anyone, themselves included. There is no actual entity called "society" in the World Beyond The Mind , like there is no desert. It is merely an association of individual components, as large as they may be. Society gets more unified as one not only through enforcement of law but also through a shared understanding of reality. However, it does not mean at all that this understanding is even correct in the slightest, just because of the function it serves. The World Beyond The Mind is a world composed of individual atoms, connected with each other only through interaction, but not through being. Communication, too, is partial illusion, embodied only through sensory symbolism we were taught throughout our lives, as our graduation to the collective Mental Dimension through socialization. Imagine the world as existent independent of our minds. Then, you may realize that the words you're reading have no objective meaning. You were simply taught that they have, so you would understand them. Of course, the study of language compels you to know the specific meanings that are collectively assigned to these words. But in reality they are just assigned, not an inherent part of them. What allows us to bridge between us and others, like words and their meaning, is our understanding of them. Only when the understanding is aligned, we could far better settle our differences, improve our harmony, and decrease the overall loneliness epidemic happening globally. The fact that we are constantly in communication with each other does not make us into a single, individual being. By the clarity of communication, which can be improved , we merely prevent ourselves, either partially or largely, the inevitable trait of loneliness into our lives. Ever wondered why even in relationships we may be lonely? It has many reasons, from unrealistic expectations to distractions such as social media. So, even in the most intimate of relations we could feel lonely, and not, well, intimate. It is inevitable to come to the conclusion that we are all alone due to our distinction, physical separation, and individuality. Togetherness does not exist in the World Beyond The Mind, but rather in our shared perception, which is used to bridge us to one another to an extent. In fact, a network of people is never quite a physical one, but rather one that is mental and metaphorical. Even the term, " Chain of Command ", has this same logic applied. There is no actual chain. It is a metaphorical one, but functional and imperative nonetheless. Where objects are built and collapsed, the atoms remain. The same goes for us individuals and the collectives we form in the Mental Dimension. We may pass through many teams, organizations and communities in life. The idea of a collective union, from a company to a relationship, to last, requires much struggle for it. It requires much struggle to preserve it because reality is by nature dynamic and quite unexpected. When any collective collapses, we need to make sure our mentality does not go down along with it. And for that we need to be strong alone for nothing really lasts forever. In that regard, we are pretty much stuck in our own "mental prisons." We better make ourselves comfortable, if we want to better ensure our strength as individuals. Alex Mos's Feedback "I know of no greater happiness than to be with you all the time, without interruption, without end." — these are the passionate words of Franz Kafka , describing a feeling of togetherness, an ecstatic moment of closeness we want to experience with a loved one forever. We live in a modern world characterized by fake digital connectedness , decreased physical interactions , and the growing "epidemic" of loneliness. In industrialized, highly developed countries, one person in 12 is affected by loneliness. This condition makes a person irritable, depressed, and self-centered, also increasing their risk of premature death by 26% due to cardiovascular diseases and cognitive decline . Loneliness is not just physical isolation from the company of other humans, which could be easily helped by improving social skills and socializing. It's a complicated feeling of being an extraterrestrial, trying to communicate with earthlings who don't listen and don't understand but judge mercilessly by their biased standards of normality. It's the feeling of not fitting into a social establishment, perceiving the world as a sophisticated computer program, and engaging in a solitary game rather than living in sensory reality with others... until we fall in mutual love. Can romantic love cure us from this lonely mental state, which brings significant health risks equal to smoking 15 cigarettes a day? Love is an emotion associated with the euphoric effects of neurotransmitters in our brain that can be expressed in many ways. It can feel like irresistible sexual desire, envious possessiveness, power of dominance, or delight of submission. It can even be irrational to the degree of objective impossibility or obsessive delusion. Euphoric romantic love can temporarily ease loneliness, but this strong emotion lasts only a few months to a few years. The keys to the lasting mind structure of togetherness are understanding each other, active listening, empathy, honesty, and intimacy. We also must overcome our egos , show our authentic selves, be willing to improve and accept the partner with their flaws and talents. Romantic love is the firm foundation, while psychological and physical closeness is the fortress that will protect us from loneliness, sometimes for the rest of our lives.

(Background music) (Philosocom Directory on Work) (Philosocom's Subcategory Directory on Dilemmas and Problems) Alex Mos's Synopsis Most people have a mercenary mindset, meaning they work to maintain or improve their lives. They strive for a hedonistic quality of life , chasing after happiness, love, and wealth. Work can't give us control over the uncertainties of life like war or disease. Therefore, the working-to-live mindset is flawed by default. It weakens us mentally because our goals are fleeing, and nothing lasts forever. When you live to work instead, putting an idea before existence, you can more easily overcome failures and maintain hope in daily life.  Fictional villains can be inspirational because they endure failures and persistently make their dreams come true.  Mr. Tomasio cares less about his comfort as long as work is done for Philosocom. Mercenaries in the Marketplace The vast majority of human beings work in order to live, and do not work for the sake of wanting to contribute to society or humanity in general. Most of them have, what I like to call, the mercenary mindset. Mercenaries work under the same reasoning any other average employee works -- to either maintain or improve their quality of life. In our hedonistic times , quality of life is seen as one of the ideals of humanity. People chase after happiness, the same as they do after love and wealth. Work is but a means to that end and existence is never the means to work but the other way around. Work as a Journey, Not a Sentence You see, logically, the problem with the working-to-live mentality stems from the fact that life is fleeting and uncertain. No amount of work would necessarily grant you happiness or even safety. And yet we work in order to maintain the very little we actually have within our control and influence to either preserve or alter. However, no amount of work will save you from disease, war or the rising costs of living. In other words, most of humanity dooms its expectations from the very beginning, by hoping and praying for things they cannot preserve or improve. Work, for most of us, does not grant us the ability to control the events happening in one's geopolitical region, for example. This means that if your country goes to war, no amount of work would compensate for the loss of your quality of life, created by said work. How are we supposed to maintain a quality of life when we lack significant control to do just that? Of course your job helps you maintain a house and feed your family. Therefore, the working-to-live mentality is flawed by default and is doomed from the start . We are not entitled to happiness when happiness is temporary. We of course are entitled to pursue happiness, as we deserve to do if we so desire, but we never deserve to actually reach this fantastical state of permanent happiness. And obviously, no amount of work would ensure us that, either. The idea of working to live is making us mentally weak. That's because whatever we want in life will always be fleeting to a degree, as nothing lasts forever. And because of that, we are in constant fear of losing what we have, and I mean that by "mentally weak". I refer to the constant feelings of hopelessness emitting in the back of our minds. Hopelessness, because we lack the power to terminate the fleeting-ness of existence. Anything that we build can fall. Any human connection can end abruptly. How can we work to live when work is insufficient for a good quality of life and good health? I am deeply inspired by fictional villains because they have a certain virtue many of us don't have: An inner spark that motivates them to endure failures regularly. Unlike many of us, these characters live to work and not the other way around. They live to make their dreams come true . Their very own lives are but tools; a means to an end. The end that is their own twisted utopia, the end that is their sweet revenge , the end that is attaining their fantasy by making it a reality on Earth. Idea VS Quality of Life In Work When you live to work, you put an idea before existence and that is extremely practical because an idea can be far easier to maintain than quality of life! Because no matter how many times you will fail miserably , as long as you have an idea you can work towards, you can have hope that can overcome the regular day-to-day living. We do not have to live from paycheck to paycheck. We do not have to live on the next rent. There can be something greater than our own lives that we can manifest and have it at play. An idea that can benefit not only ourselves but others as well. My quality of life does not matter to me as much as I put an idea before me. An idea far greater than myself . An idea that can surpass at least several generations after my death! Yes! Hail Philosocom! It gives me hope! And I mind less about myself as long as there is work being done! For I am just a tool for my own creation!

(Background music) Although ranging to 6 books, I have managed to summarize the entirety of my philosophy in one, single article, for you to enjoy and enhance your understanding of the philosophy I have to offer to the world. Hereby is a collection of ideas and principles that so far have been expanded on a total of 7 books, 4 in my native language of Hebrew, two in English, and one that I published in English and you can enjoy online. 1. Independence is the key to self-actualization : While others can help us along the way, the goal of self-actualization is to actualize oneself beyond the sphere of society ; in other words, we as individuals are more than just what we think society thinks about us; we are people with different potentials that ought to be discovered through the utilization of seclusion. 2. Egoism isn’t inheritably bad: There is no fault in putting your own interests above those of others, and in fact, you can still contribute to others even if you put your own interests first. 3. Society is at large centered on itself, AKA sociocentric : This idea isn’t directed at a specific society but at the collective at large. In order for the collective to preserve itself and gain more authority over others, it encourages its members to focus primarily on themselves, as if they were the center of all existence. One way to attempt to do so is by encouraging people not to be alone, because being extensively alone means disconnecting from the grip of society. Another way it does so is by giving authority to the norms and influencing individuals to aspire to respect it, and disdain whatever is considered weird and eccentric . Thus, such beliefs limit us in the name of its influence over us. 4. Seclusion is the key to optimal freedom under realistic circumstances: Ultimate freedom is impossible because we are always dependent on things and beings to keep us alive. The more we're alone and develop our individuality, the closer we can have some freedom from conformity . 5. Not all humans are necessarily social creatures: There can be many people who prefer their own company to that of others, and some may even prefer doing so to socializing. The statement that all people are social creatures is therefore a stereotypical generalization. 6. The Age of Solitude: Due to the dominance of technology over our lives, we are becoming less and less social because many of us spend time in front of screens instead of in front of people. Though we have global access to people, we might nonetheless be lonely. Therefore, if we learn to accept seclusion in our lives and even utilize it for our own benefit, we can overcome the contemporary "epidemic" of loneliness. 7. Being a loner doesn’t make you an egoist: Solitude can be utilized for the benefit of society. Writers, artists, philosophers, and so forth are all examples of people who utilize solitude to contribute to the world at large. 8. Being a loner doesn’t make you a loser, either: You can be successful in whatever field you’re good at even if you're a loner, and success doesn’t have to come only through societal or normative means such as marriage, sex, or wealth. 9. Self-discipline and a more ascetic lifestyle can bring you closer to optimal freedom: Financial materialism has the fault of making us addicted to constant purchases and consumerism , and addictions by nature are enslaving. If we live a healthier lifestyle by making our lives more ascetical, we can become more independent and resilient to addictions that are toxic for us, even if they make us feel good. The good feeling we receive from them is actually a delusion of good, hence, we pursue them. 10. Live and Let Live : It is not right to force your beliefs on others, because such a right does not exist. People should have the freedom to believe in whatever they want, because that is the most basic freedom we have. Hence, future technology such as brain-machine interfaces is dangerous, because our minds don’t need to be invaded or altered by external forces unless we give them our full consent to do so through convincing. 11. Society is only necessary to an extent: Let us not confuse our intense passions with our needs. While we do need society to help us fulfill our basic needs, much of what society has to offer is unnecessary in order to live a life of satisfaction and purpose. 12. We are both influenced and have control over our lives: Rubinshteinic philosophy largely emphasizes the importance of evidence, and that pure logic is not always sufficient for a possible truth to be an actual truth. Hence why concepts such as " fate " and " karma " are largely non-existent in Rubinshteinic philosophy. What we do have, however, is the fact that we are influenced by others and also have a degree of control over the direction of our lives. (EDIT: The idea is that karma and fate are not necessarily evident and are thus theories rather than something more concrete. I used them here under the same category because they are spiritualist in nature. The idea of logic in Rubinshteinic Philosophy is that it's insufficient by itself to reveal the truth. A good logician would not necessarily be a good physician, for example. They will need the medical expertise instead or in addition.) 13. Inter-Subjectivity is not Objectivity: It's used to see the thoughts, beliefs, and opinions of the majority as the objective reality. However, reality exists beyond our minds, and much of what we perceive as objectivity is largely inter-subjectivity, AKA, the shared and common subjectivity of others. And finally: 14. Meaning and importance are largely subjective terms: There isn’t necessarily a grand, universal purpose to our lives. It is thus our responsibility to give meaning and importance to our own lives by knowing ourselves as distinct individuals with distinct skills and traits. By dedicating time and energy to do so, we can be happier and more fulfilled beings without any need to hope for an external entity to supply it for us. We also don’t have to have just one meaning or one functionality, for the rest of our lives.

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