On Disability and a Way to Handle It

On Disability and a Way to Handle It

When you are to drive a car and encounter a random wall on the road, that prevents only you from going beyond it, and that wall leaves you to try harder attempts, while the rest resume their travels to that same location - would you love that wall for making your journey, more unfairly difficult, as opposed to other riders, that have not had encountered this wall?

That is an example for a disability - something that you are likely to not like about yourself, and that cannot be fixed. Why would one choose to love something that is more of a obstacle than a solution? Why embrace this act of counter-productivity, when you can accept the inevitability of whatever cannot be fixed - and go on with your life, despite said inevitability?

That is, however, unless that said inevitability can be, at least in some aspects, a valuable asset, that could bring you a greater advantage than those who do not possess it. The blind, for example, usually have sharper senses, as a form of compensating for their disability, making said disability quite of an asset, those who are not blind, have lower chances of having said asset.

Hence why I think the word “disability”, for that matter, does not always present the entire picture of the issue one is having. Perhaps in some cases it shows only a specific aspect of that issue - and not the issue in its entirety.

So even if there’s something that you dislike about yourself, that cannot ever be fixed, perhaps that thing you’re having can, at least in some way, bring you a greater deal of benefit than those who do not share this thing - it is just that we learn to see the unfixable in a commonly-specifying perspective, which we are taught to see this perspective as completely objective, even though it is not necessarily like that.

Generally, I doubt that there was ever a human being that has loved anything about themselves, as even the narcissistic might promote their self-love as a way of repressing an unwanted deal of self-loath and of self-shame. As long as perfection is yet to be achieved - something that I doubt that is realistically possible - we are all likely to dislike at least one thing about ourselves, whether we can change that thing or are forced by existence to carry it until our end.

And I think this is good that there are things that we may dislike about ourselves - adopting a completely approving perspective could be a product of bias, or, perhaps, a product of a repressed fear, that we are not that good like we think of ourselves as such. Hating oneself commonly or entirely due to a dislikable attribute, on the other hand, is also a product of bias - of negative bias, to be exact.

My advice therefore is to adopt a realistic and a utilizing perspective in regards to this issue - attempt to be aware of yourself by your entirety, of your strengths and weaknesses, and see what you can do with the “cards” you were “dealt” by your various circumstances.


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