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My Opinions on Love (From 2015 to 2023)

Updated: Jun 23

Love is one of many weaknesses that we humans store within us, along with many seeds of potential. However, even weakness has its benefits, such as granting more power to a person or group that provides this emotion. For example, a drug dealer gains more money by providing drugs to addicts, making the dealer more powerful. This does not only apply to people who provide merchandise, but also to those who provide protection and higher chances for survival, such as patriots to their country and children to their parents.

The sentence "I love this" means that your joy is dependent on a specific action or item. By saying "I love you," you are saying that your joy is dependent on the existence and influence of a specific person or group. Love is our primary motivation for doing things, whether they benefit us or harm us.

Love can therefore be interpreted as an emotional glue that attaches people (and animals) to you and makes their joy, if not their continuation of living, dependent on you. This makes you their provider, on whom they depend.

Love is a possible fear: the fear of finding oneself in an existence where there is no one to attach oneself to, where no one is there for you, when there is loneliness and silence. The search for love is an escapism from everything that this emotion protects us from contemplating about; a distraction from fully realizing the Great Void that this existence is wrapped up in, both physically and metaphorically.

Love could have been implemented into our nature due to our immature fragility as individuals. Thus, we create bonds of love with others to protect ourselves from both existential angst and dangers. The fear of being left alone without love could be the same fear that our ancestors felt in dark nights.

On my journey across the internet, I have found a very inspiring quote: "If you want to be strong, learn to fight alone." I find this quote logical: dividing strengths across members of a construct means to lower the strength the single individual has, in the name of cooperation and safety. Thus, the weakness that is found in love, on the individual level. Basically, being more self-sufficient makes you more powerful.

The modern world defies our primitive natures. Love is not necessary as it was before the process of modernization. The need for love has been replaced by the need for financial gain and law enforcement.

No longer is it necessary to be in good relations with people of service to receive service; as long as you have the money, you can purchase whatever is necessary to your survival as an adult, for love is mostly if not entirely needed for children who cannot do so. You also do not need to be in good relations with the police in order for the police to protect you from law-breaking threats, whether they come from you or from another.

Thus, not only is love not necessary, but it does not fit into the circumstances of the modern world, where people as a whole are remembered according to statistical, dry facts, rather than emotional reference. Like anything that does not fit into the environment, love has the potential to disappear from our genes, or at least from the next generations' genes, for this is a natural law, to adjust.

Many dangers that have existed in the primitive years of humanity no longer exist, or at least exist on a very small scale. There is no need to emotionally bond with anyone but your own children, in order to survive and function, as long as you have the funds for your house and the merit for your job.

The concept of love is not difficult to grasp; it is an emotion like any other. What has granted it its distinction in the eyes of the general society is the premature fantasies that our traditions and myths have granted it, perhaps simply because it can be such a strong emotion to be potentially and temporarily dominant above all other emotions, on the level of experiencing it.

Love is a result of dysfunctional innocence - of rising one's expectations from something that would most likely become more and more taken for granted in the future in the eyes of the lover and the loved. Even in relationships, the excitement caused by love is to slowly be reduced as one becomes more accommodated with the ways of the world of the grown-ups.

Like any emotion, love can become an addiction. This is probably because it is more likely to be experienced more intensely than any other emotion, which gives it a higher status of priority. However, this can also make love even more addicting than other emotions.

Basically, anything that we do can become an addiction if we are in love with it. People do not become addicted to things because they are suffocating (unless they are masochists), but because of the fun and love that these things and activities can provide. And so, we become not only the consumers, but also the consumed.

It is because of our fragility that we seek emotions to distract us from a possible state of being a metaphorical undead, of being much less emotional and more devoid, and thus, of much less subjective experience of external stimulation. It is because of our fragility that we can easily be cooperative and addicted. It may seem that everything we do that is not necessary is a potential of addiction, of escaping the possibility of staying alone in silence and in inactivity.

Our constant and learned belief that being addicted to something is good for killing time and being fulfilled is what kills our inner autarky, or self-sufficiency. It is what potentially puts us in a state that the dead are found in: a silent, boring, and eternal rest while being alive. All our lives we may escape from this being-dead-while-living, until we actually die.

Witness how fragile a non-ascetic individual is. Witness how our attachments to many things and many people are at the cost of our individual strength and of our independence from external stimulation.

With all of this in mind, the most powerful thing that we as individual beings can do is to be alone with minimal to no external stimulation. With extensive exercise of this activity, of ascetizing the body and the mind, the strengths that we have granted to things and others whom we hold dear can return to us, making us much more powerful as individuals than in groups and as emotionally attached beings.

Like a sponge, we can potentially absorb all of the mental and emotional power that we have lent to others, and ascend our nature from that of sociality and emotionality to that of though, enduring, and solitary individuals. We can transcend from a grunt that is dependent on other grunts like him, to a more self-sufficient commando.

All of this mental evolution begins from renouncing our emotions as our inner dictators, and becoming entities that do not rely on emotions for doing things. This, in turn, increases our survival as solitary beings, our productivity as workers, and our resilience from unfortunately committing suicide. For things can live and exist without a necessary purpose, from mathematical equations to us.

Without the blockade and dependency on emotions for doing or not doing things, our potential as individuals can far exceed those who are guided by the authority of emotions. The power of the metaphorical undead, who seek being devoid of emotions, and to hold hands with the Great Void, is far greater than those who are motivated by fears of things that are not really as subjectively perceived: being in seclusion, being in silence, and being without a necessary purpose as a condition to not killing oneself.

The more you train yourself to do things without emotions being a core motivation, the longer and more efficiently you will be able to do that thing. I, as a writer, have been writing these answers without any emotion. If I find something I can write and I have the time and energy to do so, I write. Without a muse to motivate me, I have written so much. I don’t even have a muse anymore; I just write when I believe there is something I can write about. There is no need to love writing in order to write in both quality and quantity, just as there is no need to love work in order to be good at work.

Stop searching for engines, for the ultimate engine lies within an ascetic resilient mind.

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Tomasio A. Rubinshtein, Philosocom's Founder & Writer

I am a philosopher from Israel, author of several books in 2 languages, and Quora's Top Writer of the year 2018. I'm also a semi-hermit who has decided to dedicate his life to writing and sharing my articles across the globe. Several podcasts on me, as well as a radio interview, have been made since my career as a writer. More information about me can be found here.

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