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My Opinions on Love


Love is but a one of many weaknesses we as humans store within us as the many seeds of potential. However, even weakness has its benefits, such as granting more power to a person or a group that provide this emotion, like a drug dealer gains more money by providing drugs to addicts, making said dealer more powerful. This does not lie only within people that provide merchandize, but also provide protection and higher chances for survival - such as patriots to their country and children to their parents.


The sentence “I love this” means that your joy is dependent on a specific action or item; by saying “I love you”, means that one’s joy is dependent over a specific person or group’s existence and influence over them. Love is our prime motivation nowadays to do things, whether they benefit us or damage us.


Love can therefore be interpreted as an emotional glue used to attach people (and animals) to you and making their joy, if not their continuation of living, upon you, making you their provider on whom they depend upon.


Love is a possible fear - a fear of finding oneself in an existence where there is no one to attach oneself into, where no one is there to be for you, when there is loneliness and when there is silence; the search of love is an escapism from everything that this emotion protect us from contemplating about; a distraction from fully realizing the Great Void that this existence is wrapped up with both physically and metaphorically.


Love could be probably implemented into our nature due to our immature fragility as individuals. Thus we create bonds of love with others to protect ourselves from both existential angst and dangers. The fear of being left alone without love could be the same fear that our ancestors have felt in dark nights.


On my journey across the internet I have found a very inspiring quote: “If you want to be strong, learn to fight alone”. I find this quote logical: dividing strengths across members of a construct means to lower the strength the single individual has, in the name of cooperation and safety. Thus the weakness that is found in love, on the individual level. Basically, being more self-sufficient makes you more powerful.


The modern world is that, that defies our primitive natures. Love is not necessary as it was before the process of modernization. The need for love has been replaced by the need of financial gain and of law enforcement. No longer there is to be in good relations with people of service to receive service - as long as you have the money you can purchase whatever is necessary to your survival as a grown up, for love is mostly if not entirely needed for children who cannot do so. You also don’t need to be in good relations with the police in order for the police to protect you from law-breaking threats, whether they come from you or from another.


Thus, not only love not necessary, but doesn’t fit into the circumstances of the modern world, where people as a whole are remembered according to statistical, dry facts, rather than emotional reference. Like anything that doesn’t fit into the environment, love has the potential to disappear from our genes, or at least from the next generations’ genes, for this is a natural law, to adjust. Many dangers that have existed in the primitive years of humanity, no longer exist or at least exist on a very small scale of proportion. There is no need to emotionally bond with anyone but your own children, in order to survive and function, as long as you have the funds for your house and the merit for your job.


The concept of love is not difficult to grasp; it is an emotion like any other. What has granted it its distinction in the eyes of the general society is the premature fantasies that our traditions and myths have granted it, perhaps simply because it can be such a strong emotion to be potentially and temporarily dominant above all other emotions, on the level of experiencing it. Love is a result of dysfunctional innocence - of rising one’s expectations from something that would most likely become more and more taken for granted in the future in the eyes of the lover and the loved. Even in relationships - the excitement caused by love is to slowly be reduced as one becomes more accommodated with the ways of the world of the grown ups.


Like any emotion, love can become an addiction. It is probably due to its higher probability to be experienced by one more intensively than any other emotion, is probably what granted this emotion a higher status of priority over others; however it can make love even more addicting than other emotions. Basically everything that we do can addict us if we are to be in love with said things and activities. People do not become addicted due to suffocating (unless they are masochists), but due to the fun, the love, that said things and activities can grant us. And thus we become not only the consumers, but the consumed.


It is because of our fragility that we seek emotions to distract us from a possible state of being a metaphorical undead, of being much less emotional and more devoid, and thus, of much less of subjective experience of external stimulation. It is because of our fragility that we can easily be cooperative and addicted. It may seem that everything we do that is not necessary, is a potential of addiction, of escaping the possibility of staying alone in silence and in inactivity. Our constant and learned belief that being addicted to something is good for killing time and being fulfilled, is what kills our inner autarky; of potentially being in a state the dead are found in - in a silent, boring and eternal rest - while being alive. All our lives we may escape from this being-dead-while-living, until we actually be dead.


Witness how much fragile a non-ascetic individual is. Witness how our attachments to many things and many people, are at the cost of our individual strength and of our independence from external stimulation.


With all of this in mind, the most powerful things we as individual beings can do is to be alone with minimal to no external stimulation. With extensive exercise of this activity, of ascetizing the body and the mind, the strengths that we granted to things and others whom we hold dear, can return to us, making us much more powerful as individuals than in groups and as emotionally attached beings. Like a sponge we can potentially absorb all of the mental and emotional power that we have lend to others, and ascend our nature from that of sociality and emotionality, to though, enduring and solitary individuals; to transcend from a grunt that is dependent on other grunts like him, to a more self-sufficient commando.


All this mental evolution begins from renouncing our emotions as our inner dictators, and becoming entities that do not rely on emotions for doing things, which in turn increases our survival as solitary beings, our productivity as workers, and our resilience from unfortunately committing suicide, for things can live and exist without a necessary purpose, from mathematical equations to us.

Without the blockade and dependency on emotions for doing or not doing things, our potential as individuals can far exceed those whom are guided by the authority of emotions. The power of the metaphorical undead, who seek being devoid of emotions, and to hold hands with the Great Void, is far greater than those whom are motivated by fears of things that are not really as subjectively perceived - being in seclusion, being in silence and being without a necessary purpose as a condition to not killing oneself.


The more you train yourself to do things without emotions being a core motivation, the longer and more efficiently you could be able to do that thing. I as a writer has been writing these answers without any emotion; if I find something I can write and I have the time and energy to do so, I write. Without a muse to motivate me, I have written so much. I don’t even have a muse anymore; I just write when I believe there is something I can write about. There’s no need to love writing in order to write in both quality and quantity, like there is no need to love work in order to be good at work.


Stop searching for engines, for the ultimate engine lies within an ascetic resilient mind.